Rules for a Happy Marriage Never yell at each other... unless the house is on fire. If someone has to win an argument... don’t try, in the end you both will lose. When feedback is requested... offer it with love and encouragement. Live in the present and future... the past can hurt, you can either run from it or learn from it. Each day try to do one kind thing for each other. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it & ask for forgiveness. Rules for an Unhappy Marriage Be sure to Focus on what’s wrong Always be right Make it about you Create a “safe space” away from your relationship Be sure to put others above your relationship Expect your spouse to think and see things the way you do.