Using a collaborative and solution focused approach, I provide therapy and treatment for a wide range of issues and mental disorders with children, adults, couples, and families. You can feel better. You can recover. You can start living a more positive life with healthy relationships.
My office is conveniently located near Rts 287, 22, and 28, wiith ample free street parking. Discreetly situated in a quiet neighborhood with a private entrance.
Adults, Adolescents, and ChildrenI work with individuals who suffer from a wide range of disorders and problems. On the Welcome page of my website, I list many of the problems I frequently treat. I myself recovered from anxiety attacks, panic disorder, and agoraphobia. At one point, I was unable to leave the house, unable to drive, fly, cross bridges, take elevators or escalators, go in malls, or stores. I now enjoy an active life and remind everyone that if I can get better so can you. I also recovered from a serious and life-threatening eating disorder-Anorexia Nervosa. I know both personally and professionally how to help you recover and enjoy life again.I encourage you to phone me to discuss your situation and hear about how I will work with you to heal, resolve challenges, and move forward in a positive direction. I incorporate stress management and mindfulness techniques where applicable, and will work with your doctor, chiropractor, psychiatrist or other treatment provider to ensure you receive the best possible care.CouplesI work with Heterosexual and Gay & Lesbian couples on conflict resolution, trust and communication issues, infidelity, emotional affairs, parenting and other relationship issues. I also provide premarital counseling.Counseling and psychotherapy with women and men in emotionally abusive relationships is something I also do. Years ago, I survived and left a physically and emotionally abusive relationship-so I know first hand what that is about as well as how to work with individuals in those circumstances.
Harm Reduction is an approach I utilize in many aspects of my work to reduce negative behavioral patterns and harmful habits while encouraging and building upon healthy behaviors and setting realistic, attainable goals. Goal-setting is always a collaborative effort.I am a member in good standing of the following professional associations:
Marriage & Family Counseling focused on addressing and easing the way to becoming a blended family:
Marriage and family therapy is one of the most effective ways to help a blended family work through the issues that each member brings to the new family. Children of blended families may experience a wide variety of emotions such as jealousy, rivalry, discontentment, confusion, animosity, loyalty and loss.
Couples Counseling focused on addressing divorce related issues and their impact on your family, transitioning to a co-parenting relationship, while reducing and alleviating stress:
Divorce is a difficulty time for all involved . Therapy assists families with working through the difficult process, that includes getting through the painful emotions, considering the best interests of children and developing good co-parenting relations.
Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to emotional affairs, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the emotional affair:
Emotional relationships venture into dangerous territory. They may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages. It might have started with a conversation over the Internet, or with a seemingly innocent friendship in the workplace. These romances may seem harmless — perhaps even "safe" alternatives to cheating on your spouse. The truth is, such relationships venture into dangerous territory; they may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages.
Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to inlaw relationships and their impact on your relationship, reducing and alleviating symptoms, while addressing the root causes:
If you have disagreements with your in-laws, your spouse may feel caught in the middle between parents and you. You, meanwhile, have obligations to in-laws and spouse—and children, if you have any. When you married, you also became part of another family with its own set of expectations. You need to recognize and respect those—within limits, this is where a qualfied therapist can help both of you establish healthy boundaries.
Marriage / Relationship Counseling focused on addressing issues related to the gay life style, reducing and relieving symptoms, while addressing the root causes of those symptoms:
Gay men are frequently at higher risk for depression and anxiety issues. Youth who identify themselves as gay often are at a higher risk for depression and suicide attempts. Factors contributing to this may include discrimination, social alienation, and rejection by loved ones. Gay men who try to hide their sexual orientation, including those who lack social support, often have more difficulty.
Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to infidelity, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of infidelity:
Infidelity in a committed relationship can create a significant strain on both partners and on the relationship itself. An affair often signals the end a relationship, but not always, with competent professional assistance and a commitment from both partners, sometimes it can be a significant turning point for the better. Often an affair may take the other partner completely by surprise, leaving that person feeling devastated, aggrieved, betrayed, jealous, confused, and alone. Some individuals and couples seek therapy at such a time to help recover and move on.
Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and soothing issues related to intimacy, and their impact on your relationship, while addressing the root causes of these issues:
An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves emotional and or physical intimacy. Intimate relationships require and can have issues with communication, transparency, vulnerability and mutual trust.
Premarital Counseling focused on developing healthy relationship strategies, and tools for a long and happy marriage:
What does premarital counseling look like? It is as varying and unique as the personality and background of the therapist. Finding someone that you can trust, and who honors your unique situation, is essential. All too many couples get caught up in spending time planning their weddings without developing a plan for their marriage. The early stages of a relationship, when the feelings you have for your partner are usually positive, is the ideal time to become more conscious and intentional in the ways you interact and work together. Counseling can give you insights into where your particular relationship dynamics might be heading in the wrong direction. There is an educational aspect to pre-marital counseling as well, so that you can learn better communication skills and leran how to negotiate conflict so that you can resolve your differences in a way that actually strengthens your connection.
Marriage Counseling focused on developing constructive stress management techniques and strategies:
Stress symptoms may be affecting your health, frequent headaches, insomnia, chest pains, irritability, decreased productivity, and even forgetfulness. Stress may actually be the root cause of all of these symptoms. Stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and especially your behavior. Being able to recognize common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that's left unchecked can contribute to health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes.
Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and diminishing symptoms related to trust, and addressing the root causes for the trust issues:
Trust is a fundamental human experience, at the root of all trust issues is a past betrayal. Whether abused as a child or cheated on by a spouse, the betrayed person will go through life seeing herself as less desirable than others, or believing herself to be unlovable. She/he will keep others at a distance, avoiding intimate relationships. Only by working through these trust issues - or, rather, lack of trust issues - can the person learn to maintain a healthy boundary while still letting others in.
Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy expressions of anger, addressing root causes, and how to express anger in nondestructive ways:
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems--problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Counseling focused on addressing relationship issues related to body image, reducing and relieving symptoms, while addressing their root causes of these body image issues:
Body image issues are a common problem. In a society that promotes unrealistic body ideals, it is challenging to not get caught up in comparing oneself to these unrealistic standards. As a result, many individuals may experience depression, anxiety, anger and even self-loathing. In addition to affecting an individual's view of self, poor body image may also result in avoidance of social situations and may interfere with developing healthy social and romantic relationships.
Counseling focused on healthy methods of self & relationship care, addressing the stresses of caring for an aging parent, communication, and developing mutually agreeable and functional strategies for providing care:
Caregivers face many difficult issues when dealing with an aging parent that can cause stress, anger, guilt, sadness and resentment. Caring for your aging parents involves understanding and making decisions about services and options that most of us know little about. Currently as many as one in four adults is primarily responsible for caring for their elderly parent and the number is expected to increase in the future.
Counseling focused on addressing and alleviating the effects of depression and anxiety, and their impact on your relationship:
Most people people feel anxious or depressed at times, some experience these feelings daily or nearly daily for no apparent reason, making it difficult to carry on with normal, everyday functioning. These people may have an anxiety disorder, depression, or both. It is not uncommon for someone with an anxiety disorder to also suffer from depression or vice versa. Nearly one-half of those diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. The good news is that these disorders are both treatable, separately and together.
Counseling focused on addressing issues related to eating disorders, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes:
Because in our society we continue to value thinness, almost everyone worries about their weight at least from time to time. However, individuals with eating disorders take these worries and concerns to extremes, and develop abnormal eating habits that threaten their well-being and in many cases, even their lives. These are serious issues that trained professionals can assist you with.
Counseling focused on addressing and allaying the effects of grief and loss, and its impact on your relationship:
Grief is your emotional reaction to a significant loss. The words sorrow and heartache are often used to describe feelings of grief. Whether you lose a beloved person, animal, place, or object, or a valued way of life (such as your job, marriage, or good health), some level of grief will naturally follow.
Counseling focused on addressing health issues and it's impact on your health, reducing and alleviating symptoms, while addressing their root causes:
Disease and illness inevitably will affect every person in some way, whether it be directly (self) or indirectly (friend or family member). The onset and existence of medical health issues and illnesses may lead persons to feel sad, anxious, depressed and/or angry. Whether a medical condition or health issue is expected or unexpected, its effects may be negative and create feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.
Counseling focused on addressing and allaying the effects of panic attacks, and their impact on you and your relationship(s):
A panic attack is a sudden, distinct episode of intense and overwhelming anxiety that often occurs without warning or any obvious reason. The experience of a panic attack is far more powerful and extreme than the feeling of being “highly stressed”, tense, or worried. The individual may feel like sudden death is imminent and that at any moment a terrible trauma is about to happen, or that they are about to die of a heart attack.
Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy methods of parenting teens, addressing root causes, and developing mutually agreeable parenting strategies:
Anyone who has a teenager is probably familiar with the term conflict. In fact, most adolescents seem to come by this state of being quite naturally. There are many important misunderstandings that occur both with the parent and with the adolescent, that, if recognized would not only reduce conflict, but strengthen the relationship, even if it seems there is hardly one there. While arguments between a parent and their teen is not of itself a bad thing, the manner in which we choose to resolve these disagreements is what ultimately determines the outcome and anxiety each encounters.
Counseling focused on addressing issues related to self esteem & personal growth Issues, reducing and easing symptoms, while addressing the root causes:
Life is full of challenges, but often we don’t move forward until change is forced upon us. Upheaval forces us to re-evaluate who we are and how we got into the situation we are in. Personal growth refers to learning new and better ways to deal with life, for example learning to understand and handle emotions more effectively, or learning to communicate better.
Counseling focused on addressing and reducing symptoms related to addictions, while addressing the root causes of the addiction, and replacing it with healthy habits. Addiction is a recognized disease that affects the brain and its neurochemistry. The cycle of addiction is created by changes in brain chemistry and perpetuated by physiological, psychological, and emotional dependency. Addiction and recovery counseling focuses on interrupting the destructive cycle of seeking, using, recovering, and seeking again. In short interrupting the addiction cycle, and replacing it with healthy habits.
A counseling speciality specifically for children & adolescents. Counseling provides an opportunity to talk confidentially with a counselor about personal concerns and to facilitate personal growth. The counselor and client work together to define and discuss personal issues and to reach mutually agreed upon goals. Addressing a range of issues such as: Depression, anxiety (panic attacks, test anxiety, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorders), eating disorders, relationship difficulties, family conflict, grief and loss, self esteem, sexuality, substance abuse, sexual assault/trauma, anger management.
Cognitive behavioral therapy is a counseling approach that aims to teach the person new skills on how to solve problems concerning dysfunctional emotions, behaviors and cognitions through a goal-oriented, systematic procedure.
Works with families and couples as a whole system, to nurture change and development. It tends to focus on change in terms of the interactions between family members. It emphasizes family relationships as an important factor in psychological health.
This approach to counseling sees human beings as having an innate tendency to develop towards their full potential. But this is inevitably blocked or distorted by our life experiences, in particular those who tell us we are only loved or valued if we behave in certain ways and not others, or have certain feelings and not others. As a result, because we have a deep need to feel valued, we tend to distort or deny to our awareness those of our inner experiences that we believe will not be acceptable. The counselor or therapist in this approach aims to provide an environment in which the client does not feel under threat or judgement. This enables the client to experience and accept more of who they are as a person, and reconnect with their own values and sense of self-worth. This reconnection with their inner resources enables them to find their own way to move forward.
Individual counseling is an opportunity to talk confidentially with a counselor about personal concerns and to facilitate personal growth. The counselor and client work together to define and discuss personal issues and to reach mutually agreed upon goals. Addressing a range of issues such as: Depression, anxiety (panic attacks, test anxiety, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorders), eating disorders, relationship difficulties, family conflict, grief and loss, self esteem, sexuality, substance abuse, sexual assault/trauma, anger management.
Marriage counseling is a type of therapy for a married couple or established couple that assists in resolving problems in the relationship. Typically, two people attend counseling sessions together to discuss specific issues. Marriage counseling helps couples learn to deal more effectively with problems, and can help prevent problems from becoming more serious. Research shows that marriage counseling, when effective, tends to improve a person's physical as well as mental health, in addition to improving the relationship.
RET is a form of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). The primary focus of this treatment approach is to suggest changes in thinking that will lead to changes in behavior, thereby alleviating or improving presenting symptoms. The therapy emphasizes changing irrational thinking patterns that cause emotional distress into thoughts that are more reasonable and rational.
Rogerian therapy focuses on immediate conscious experience. Rogers describes therapy as a process of freeing a person and removing obstacles so that normal growth and development can proceed and the client can become independent and self-directed.
Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) focuses on what clients want to achieve through therapy rather than on the problem(s) that made them seek help. The approach does not focus on the past, but instead, focuses on the present and future. The therapist or counselor uses respectful curiosity to invite the client to envision their preferred future and then therapist and client start attending to any moves towards it, whether these are small increments or large changes. To support this, questions are asked about the client’s story, strengths and resources, and about exceptions to the problem.