Marriage Counseling Kitchener, ON N2E 1N8, Susan Lovelady, MSW RSW

I offer individual, family and marriage counselling. I enjoy working with children (from age 6) & adolescents both individually & with their families. I specialize in providing counselling for anxiety, depression, parenting, stress management, anger management, conflict resolution, family violence, sexual abuse, burnout & chronic pain.

1991 - Present ( 27 years 10 months )

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I am in the Country Hills area of Kitchener bordered by Homer Watson, Blockline, Strasburg and Bleams. There is a bus stop within a five-minute walk of my home: Route 11.

39 Murrayhill Court,
Kitchener, ON N2E 1N8

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Office Hours:

Monday: 11:30 am - 8:30 pm
Tuesday: 11:30 am - 8:30 pm
Thursday: 11:30 am - 8:30 pm
Friday: 11:30 am - 7:00 pm
Other Hours: By appointment only
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My Approach
My Approach

Individually, I focus on techniques for expressing feelings in a healthy manner. With parents, I focus on parenting strategies and skills to improve communication. In marriage and couple counselling, I focus on concrete ways to improve active listening skills, contain conflict and rebuild the feelings of love and trust.  With clients who have been physically, sexually, or verbally abused, I use a feminist approach and examine the abuse of power. I combine various theoretical perspectives including cognitive behavioural therapy, EMDR and solution focus therapy, focusing on what works best for each individual.

Marriage & Couples Counseling
Marriage & Couples Counseling
Anger Management Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy expressions of anger, addressing root causes, and how to express anger in nondestructive ways:

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

Anxiety Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing relationship issues related to anxiety, reducing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the anxiety:

Anxiety is defined as, a persistent or chronic, unsubstantiated concern that causes significant distress, resulting in disturbances in your social life, or interferes with your course work, or professional life. Individuals with anxiety disorders amy avoid  common social situations for fear of being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated. Panic attacks or persistent worry and anticipation of panic attacks, are common symptoms as are feelings of terror or impending doom. Other symptoms may include, an apparent irrational fear or avoidance of an object, place, or situation.

Childhood Sexual Abuse Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and diminishing symptoms related to childhood sexual abuse, while addressing any issues with healthy intimacy in your relationship:

Sexual abuse is usually committed by someone known to, and often trusted by the child. This frequently results in a great sense of confusion, betrayal, and, often, guilt. Guilty feelings typically arise if the victim, experienced any pleasurable feelings, or having trusted the abuser, now feels that their abuser will "get in trouble". Abusers often lie to, and reward their victims, and sometimes threaten the loved ones of their victims in order to keep the secret, which adds another layer to the emotional trauma.

Conflict Resolution Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on constructive conflict resolution techniques and strategies:

Conflict in intimate relationships arises from many areas, including communication, intimacy, values, perceptions, parenting and the list goes on. When a conflict triggers strong feelings, a deep personal need is often at the core of the problem. These needs can be a need to feel safe and secure, a need to feel respected and valued, or a need for greater closeness and intimacy.

Depression & Anxiety Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and alleviating the effects of depression and anxiety, and their impact on your relationship:

Most people people feel anxious or depressed at times, some experience these feelings daily or nearly daily for no apparent reason, making it difficult to carry on with normal, everyday functioning. These people may have an anxiety disorder, depression, or both. It is not uncommon for someone with an anxiety disorder to also suffer from depression or vice versa. Nearly one-half of those diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. The good news is that these disorders are both treatable, separately and together.

Depression Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing relationship issues related to depression, reducing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the depression:

Depression is a medical illness that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Depression can cause physical symptoms, too. Also called major depression, major depressive disorder and clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think and behave. Depression can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems. You may have trouble doing normal day-to-day activities, and depression may make you feel as if life isn't worth living.

Domestic Violence Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and alleviating the root causes of domestic violence, and its impact on your relationship:

Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors where one partner tries to maintain control of the other through the use of physical force, intimidation and threats.

Parenting Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy methods of parenting children, addressing root causes, and developing mutually agreeable parenting strategies:

No one is born with natural parenting skills. They are something that is learned from watching our own parents or from our own care givers. We do what we have learned, or what we have not learned! It is learned behavior.

PTSD Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and reducing symptoms related to post traumatic stress, addressing the root causes of the trauma:

Some symptoms of PTSD are ongoing and recurring nightmares, flashbacks, and or emotional numbing relating to a traumatic event in your life that occurred several months or years ago.

Stress Management Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on developing constructive stress management techniques and strategies:

Stress symptoms may be affecting your health, frequent headaches, insomnia, chest pains, irritability, decreased productivity, and even forgetfulness. Stress may actually be the root cause of all of these symptoms. Stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and especially your behavior. Being able to recognize common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that's left unchecked can contribute to health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes.

Individual Counseling
Individual Counseling & Coaching
Anger Management Issues

Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy expressions of anger, addressing root causes, and how to express anger in nondestructive ways:

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems--problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

Anxiety Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to anxiety, reducing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the anxiety:

Anxiety is defined as a persistent or chronic, unsubstantiated concern that causes significant distress, resulting in disturbances in your social life, or interferes with your course work, or professional life. Individuals with anxiety disorders may avoid common social situations for fear of being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated. Panic attacks or persistent worry and anticipation of panic attacks are common symptoms, as are feelings of terror or impending doom. Other symptoms may include an apparent irrational fear or avoidance of an object, place, or situation.

Childhood Sexual Abuse Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and diminishing symptoms related to childhood sexual abuse, while addressing any issues with healthy intimacy in your relationship:

Sexual abuse is usually committed by someone known to, and often trusted by the child. This often results in a great sense of confusion, betrayal, and, often, guilt. Guilty feelings frequently arise if the victim, experienced any pleasurable feelings, or having trusted the abuser, now feels that their abuser will "get in trouble". Abusers often lie to, and reward their victims, and sometimes threaten the loved ones of their victims in order to keep the secret, which adds another layer to the emotional trauma.

Depression & Anxiety Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and alleviating the effects of depression and anxiety, and their impact on your relationship:

Most people people feel anxious or depressed at times, some experience these feelings daily or nearly daily for no apparent reason, making it difficult to carry on with normal, everyday functioning. These people may have an anxiety disorder, depression, or both. It is not uncommon for someone with an anxiety disorder to also suffer from depression or vice versa. Nearly one-half of those diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. The good news is that these disorders are both treatable, separately and together.

Depression Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to depression, reducing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the depression:

Depression is a medical illness that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Depression can cause physical symptoms, too. Also called major depression, major depressive disorder and clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think and behave. Depression can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems. You may have trouble doing normal day-to-day activities, and depression may make you feel as if life isn't worth living.

Dissociative Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to dissociation, reducing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the dissociations:

Dissociative disorders are a group of disorders characterized by a strange feeling of being detached from reality. By definition, the word “dissociate” refers to a mental state in which a person blocks out memories, fails to recognize surroundings, or even fails to recognize his or her own identity. Most people experience mild dissociation on a regular basis, like when they daydream. However, what makes this common experience different from a dissociative disorder is the severity and length of the dissociation. When a person experiences some form of dissociative disorder, the experience is very disturbing and beyond the person’s control.

Domestic Violence Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and alleviating the root causes of domestic violence, and its impact on your relationship(s):

Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors where one partner tries to maintain control of the other through the use of physical force, intimidation and threats.

Parenting Issues

Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy methods of parenting children, addressing root causes, and developing healthy parenting strategies:

No one is born with natural parenting skills. They are something that is learned from watching our own parents or from our own care givers. We do what we have learned, or what we have not learned! It is learned behavior.

PTSD Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and reducing symptoms related to post traumatic stress, addressing the root causes of the trauma:

Some symptoms of PTSD are ongoing and recurring nightmares, flashbacks, and or emotional numbing relating to a traumatic event in your life that occurred several months or years ago.

Stress Management Issues

Counseling focused on developing constructive stress management techniques and strategies:

Stress symptoms may be affecting your health, even though you might not realize it. You may think illness is to blame for that nagging headache, your frequent insomnia or your decreased productivity at work. But stress may actually be the culprit. Indeed, stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and your behavior. Being able to recognize common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that's left unchecked can contribute to health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes.

Counseling Approaches
Counseling Approaches
Child & Adolescent Counseling

A counseling speciality specifically for children & adolescents. Counseling provides an opportunity to talk confidentially with a counselor about personal concerns and to facilitate personal growth. The counselor and client work together to define and discuss personal issues and to reach mutually agreed upon goals. Addressing a range of issues such as: Depression, anxiety (panic attacks, test anxiety, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorders), eating disorders, relationship difficulties, family conflict, grief and loss, self esteem, sexuality, substance abuse, sexual assault/trauma, anger management.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive behavioral therapy is a counseling approach that aims to teach the person new skills on how to solve problems concerning dysfunctional emotions, behaviors and cognitions through a goal-oriented, systematic procedure.

EMDR Therapy

Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is a therapy in which the patient recalls a traumatic event while simultaneously undergoing bilateral stimulation that can consist of moving the eyes from side to side, vibrations or tapping movements on different sides of the body, or tones delivered through one ear, then the other, via headphones. The goal of EMDR therapy is to process these distressing memories, reducing their lingering influence and allowing clients to develop more adaptive coping mechanisms.

Family Counseling

Works with families and couples as a whole system, to nurture change and development. It tends to focus on change in terms of the interactions between family members. It emphasizes family relationships as an important factor in psychological health.

Guided Imagery & Visualization

This counseling technique involves the systematic practice of creating a detailed mental image of an attractive and peaceful setting or environment. Guided imagery is frequently paired with physical relaxation techniques such as progressive muscle relaxation. When guided imagery is paired with physical relaxation techniques, the aim is to associate the sensations of relaxation with the peaceful visual image, so that future practice sessions involving imagery alone will quickly bring back to mind the physical sensations of relaxation.

Individual Counseling

Individual counseling is an opportunity to talk confidentially with a counselor about personal concerns and to facilitate personal growth. The counselor and client work together to define and discuss personal issues and to reach mutually agreed upon goals.  Addressing a range of issues such as: Depression, anxiety (panic attacks, test anxiety, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorders), eating disorders, relationship difficulties, family conflict, grief and loss, self esteem, sexuality, substance abuse, sexual assault/trauma, anger management.

Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling is a type of therapy for a married couple or established couple that assists in resolving problems in the relationship. Typically, two people attend counseling sessions together to discuss specific issues. Marriage counseling helps couples learn to deal more effectively with problems, and can help prevent problems from becoming more serious. Research shows that marriage counseling, when effective, tends to improve a person's physical as well as mental health, in addition to improving the relationship.

Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)

Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) focuses on what clients want to achieve through therapy rather than on the problem(s) that made them seek help. The approach does not focus on the past, but instead, focuses on the present and future. The therapist or counselor uses respectful curiosity to invite the client to envision their preferred future and then therapist and client start attending to any moves towards it, whether these are small increments or large changes. To support this, questions are asked about the client’s story, strengths and resources, and about exceptions to the problem.

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